THE "IT WASN'T ME" GAME

It's so captivating to see how with aging, a craving to learn and unlearn heightens, opening up to available options is bliss rather than felt as losing, history and the present marry to form your life's manual, reading and listening are power tools. All of us, ultimately looking for growth in it all. So allow me applaud myself and you too hopefully, for a new found love for reading and understanding of what we call, this life.

I, not too long ago, read a Chinese proverb somewhere, that said, "one who blames others is nowhere, one who blames himself is half way there and one who blames no one, has arrived." Chinese might be a big bunch of duplicators for many things but another thing they definitely are, is wise. Maybe because they sacredly keep their traditions and teachings passed on to the generations that come or maybe they duplicated these quotes from another people, who knows?! 

A lot of women especially the mothers today are trapped in a strong web by society's roles for them, what everyone expects of you becomes primary to what you want or need for yourself. It's others first and then you, just maybe. Our minds have been so far gone into this doctrine, we just see no way to save ourselves from the drowning. We know not any other way so we stick with it. But eventually, it always ends the same, another sad and miserable woman's life lived, some more dreams and world changing forces that could have been, going down the drain. 

It's easy and wouldn't be wrong to blame the world for restraining us from so many things we could be or do but that only gets you nowhere as depicted by the Chinese people. Our power lies in turning from blame into a positive mental space, a space to think solutions, a space to build attitudes that remind you of who you are meant to be. Any struggling woman out there, kids, no kids, doesn't matter,  keep this question lingering at the base of your mind for whatever you will do, "what if I were a single mum, what would I do?"

That takes the weakness of total dependancy to a whole new realm of power to give your own fight, YOUR ALL.

Of all the people that walk this Earth, single mothers go beyond what was thought possible and make homes and mostly successful humans out of what was meant to be doom. Their fight and strength is like no other, we are so proud of them. So step out of what's been decided for you or only what's given and fight for the best for you, your children, your dreams, like there was no one else left in this world to put food at your table. Always remember, it's no one's fault and you have a greater duty.